About Time 真愛每一天

        如果要選擇某一件讓我覺得「活在這世界很美好」的事情，我會說是「電影」。我也很慶幸身旁有熱愛電影，知道電影的價值的親人。 但像海一樣的電影世界也需要謹慎選擇的：一部電影如果來得正是時候，它能成為你的靈感、你的導師，為你解惑、為你導航，讓你不在人生的道路上痛苦或是迷失；有時它也能解讀你心中無法言喻的感情，爬梳你的思緒。但是在不對的時間看不對的電影，雖然你會覺得「那沒什麼損失」但其實你是損失了，因為你沒有共鳴，感覺空洞，實際上就是浪費了時間（還有金錢）；不過人生不必一定什麼事都要有目的，這樣太辛苦了，所以如果藉著看電影可以暫時逃離現實，那也是它的好處之一。
        我忘了從什麼時候開始，老公第一次跟我推薦「真愛每一天（About Time）」，但我因為很蠢的理由不聽他的建議；然後我記得，他跟我說他在回台灣參加告別式的那班飛機上，看了這部片，更推薦我一定要看；另外順道推薦一部「父後七日」。
那時，還沈淪在傷痛中的我，很固執的認為自己不需要在這些電影裡尋求慰藉；回美國後，我先是看了父後七日，最近看了About Time；前者黑色幽默過了頭，即使稍微打動我的心，力道卻很弱；後者深深觸動我內心的某部分，就是我所謂的「對的電影」
        這些日子以來，當我還是在某些特定的（尤其身心俱疲）時候，鼻酸，流淚，甚至失聲痛哭，是因為有太濃的思念，還有無法彌補的遺憾。思念已是我生命的一部份，我學習與它和平共處；關於遺憾，因為我的懦弱，當時不願接受任何像是「遺言」的話題，所以我錯過了和媽媽好好道別的機會。看這部電影時，我試著去想，如果那時我鼓起勇氣願意和還有意識的媽媽認真談心，她會對我說哪些話呢？但後來我了解，其實媽媽想對我說的話，在她活著的每一天都說過了；我耳邊不總是響起她的叮嚀嗎？

I love this movie, and I love those quotes: some are wise, some tell the truth, and some are just too smart (like the last one!) I'm gonna memorize every bit of it:

“So he told me his secret formula for happiness: part one of two part plan was I should just get on with ordinary life, living it day by day, like anyone else... But then came part two of Dad's plan: he told me to live everyday again, almost exactly the same. The first time with all the worries and tensions that stop us noticing how sweet the world can be; but the second time, noticing. ”

“And as many families do, we got used to life after death, and it was still fine. And things settled back into their traditional rhythms season after season and are much as they have always been.”

“I think I've learned the final lesson from my travels in time, and I've even gone one step further than my father did: I just to live every day as if I've deliberately  come back to this one day to enjoy it as if it was a full final day of my extraordinary, ordinary life.”

“I just thought that maybe, you know, it was time for the insurance baby. In case one of them is really smart, we don't want the other one to feel stupid their whole life. And if we had the third one, then, we could have two happy dummies. ” 

很棒的電影：）